I would like to encourage mothers, fathers, caregivers to not be afraid to speak several languages to their children. If you are bi- or multilingual yourself: don’t be afraid to make your kids become part of your multicultural world.
As a multilingual mum, I know how enriching it is to call several cultures and languages your own. “There is nothing better in life than understanding other cultures from the inside, including their sense of humor and their way of thinking. The more languages you speak, the more you are able to find yourself in the right place and situation” (I quote the author of the post).
My multicultural experience started when I was born. My German parents lived in Italy, so Italian and German were the first two languages I was exposed to since the beginning. German was our family language and Italian was the language we spoke with the locals, with Italian friends or with those who didn’t understand German. There was never any question about not learning Italian, neither for my mum, nor for us children.
And this were the late sixties early seventies! There were no lessons for adults at that time, so my mother learned Italian thanks to TV, radio and daily contact with locals. She is a very keen and curious learner. I think she passed this passion on to my sister and me. She never questioned the utility of the languages she learned. I remember that at the age of 4 I once came home cross after having played with our neighbours’ boy, complaining about him not wanting to learn German. He was a bit older than my sister and teached us songs, rhymes etc. and I was upset because he refused to learn German songs or rhymes from me. I couldn’t understand why he was talking always Italian with us and why he wouldn’t talk German.
My mum told me that we were guests in this country and that we were supposed to learn the language of our hosts. Not the other way round. Or at least, if our hosts didn’t want to learn our language, we didn’t have to insist or feel upset about this. This made perfectly sense to me. Even if later some of my Italian friends were more likely to learn German, I still think my mum was very right.
I learned German and Italian at the same time, since the beginning. I can’t remember when I started to talk Italian, but it was pretty much at the same time I started to talk German. The 3rd language, French, followed at school, when I was 6, the 4th, English, when I was 11. I had Dutch friends in school and picked up some typical expressions and ended up liking this language too. The 5th language I acquired was Swissgerman at age 20 – but I already understood Swissgerman because we had to pass through Switzerland (and the Swissgerman part of it), in order to visit family in Germany, and we did spend some holidays there. I never took Swissgerman lessons: I just repeated what locals said and fully immersed into the Schwiitzertüütsch. I’ve learned my 6th language, Dutch, when I was 38.– These are the languages I’ve acquired a proficency in. I’ve also studied some northern Italian dialects and a bit of a Sardinian dialect. Now I’m “learning” the 7th language, Spanish. I already have a passive competence in Spanish, as several articles in my research fields are written in Spanish and I have some Spanish friends I understand when they’re talking. And I learned languages nobody talks anymore, like Latin, Old French and Old Provencal.
As some parents are very concerned about their teenage children refusing to talk a minority language at some point, I would like to reassure them: bilinguals or multilinguals will always have one or two dominant languages, depending on their personal preferences for a language, the language(s) their friends (peers) speak, their work environment etc. If someone learns a language and acquires a good or very good proficiency in it but then stops using this language in his daily life, he will always be able to reactivate this language at any time if needed.
I used not to talk German every day for several years when I was in my twenties, and ended up doing lots of code-switching with people I knew were able to understand the other language I was mixing it with (Italian); but with a bit of effort, I managed to speak “proper German” again when I needed to.
Today I speak two to three languages per day and obviously, the other languages are a bit neglected, but I know that I can reactivate them anytime.
Are you a multilingual parent as well? What is your experience with your languages?
- Do multilinguals have multiple personalities? (expatsincebirth.com)