When asked where their home is, TCK’s (Third Culture Kids) usually don’t know what to answer. And this is not because they don’t know the feeling, but because they can’t specify one – and only one! – specific place they would call their home.
The reaction of FCK (First Culture Kids) or people is often pity… But why should someone be ashamed or feel guilty because he doesn’t associate the feeling of “home” with a geographical location?
I would like to share this video from Robin Pascoe about what “home” is for a TCK and how parents can help their children to find their place in the world.
When I meet other expats or ATCK’s, I don’t ask them where they come from or where their home is, but all kind of other things like “how long are you in this country already?” or questions about the languages they speak (or if they already know the local language), their housing situation, their children, I ask them what they like to do etc.
Personally, I don’t think that TCK’s really worry about where “home” is. And I noticed that TCK’s among TCK’s or globally living people will never ask them “Where is home?”, but are more focussed on the languages they speak, if they have family, where they work, what they’ve done in their lives. Sometimes we ask eachother “where do you come from?” but not with the attempt to pigeonhole them and assign them mentally to one (and only one!) place, country or culture, if we do so, we only want to find out if we share the same languages, experiences abroad etc.
But listen to the statements of TCK’s on this video from Adrian Bautista:
Are you a TCK or an ATCK? What are your thoughts about this?