but lately I have been noticing some decisions I make when speaking different languages and was wondering the same thing there, as I noticed I am have different characteristics when I speak different languages. Even the level of aggression depends on the language I am thinking in.

I am more confident and would like to do presentations in English but would talk to girls in Russian seems easier, then Chinese I am so shy when I am on Chinese mode. But Mongolian I cant express my self clear on it, feels like I never get to the point what I wanna say in Mongolian.

Thanks, Amanda, for stopping by! Yes, it’s so interesting to watch the different stages our children are acquiring their languages. About the language preferences to express feelings etc., some say that certain languages are intrinsically more suited for this, because the sounds in that language are expressing it easier than in another language (but I would be careful to jump to conclusions…). Personally, I don’t think it’s always related with the nature of the language. In my opinion it pretty much depends on how we feel about the language. If it’s a language we’re used to express our feelings, we’ll probably use it more spontaneously. It doesn’t even have to be our first language! For me it is Italian (my first language was German), but I also prefer talking Italian when it comes to be serious with my children – and there, if I would agree with the theory mentioned before, German would be more suitable. But, again, I think that my children just are more attentive when I switch language, so, they would pay more attention and listen to what I say only because I switch language. – I wish you and your family a very exciting journey in discovering your language preferences and would love to know more!

Hi, “obscreen”. I’m glad you like this topic. I don’t really understand what you mean with “all the bad sides of my personality come through as it feels like a filter”: if it’s like a filter, it stops something, but apparently using Spanish doesn’t stop, but increases your (only bad?) wordflow, right? There are some linguists who say that there are languages that are more appropriate to express feelings than others. Personally, I prefer talking Italian when I have to express a feeling very quickly or when I react spontaneously. My kids are used to this switching 😉
I think that every language we speak gives us another canal to express what we want to express. Somehow, we unconsciuosly choose the most appropriate language in our repertoire to express certain things. I guess your personality did develop well in English for English standards and with Spanish you’re experiencing a side of your personality that is new, more spontaneous, less reflecting? I observe this when I talk Italian or French (I’m only beginning to talk Spanish but am far from being fluent yet): I’m much more spontaneous than when I talk German or English.
(btw. I tried to find your homepage/blog but it wasn’t accessible. Could you please send me your url? – Thanks).