Comments on: Twins at school: once separated, always separated? https://expatsincebirth.com/2012/09/13/twins-at-school-once-separated-always-separated/ a blog by a multilingual lifelong expat/international, linguist, researcher, speaker, mother of three, living in the Netherlands and writing about raising children with multiple languages, multiculturalism, parenting abroad, international life... Fri, 27 Sep 2013 09:20:35 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: One year expatsincebirth « expatsincebirth https://expatsincebirth.com/2012/09/13/twins-at-school-once-separated-always-separated/#comment-3180 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 00:04:23 +0000 http://expatsincebirth.com/?p=120#comment-3180 […] I didn’t write a lot about twins yet, but I’m preparing a whole series about twins “from baby to teen”. The first post about this is called “Twins at school: once separated always separated?“ […]

]]> By: expatsincebirth https://expatsincebirth.com/2012/09/13/twins-at-school-once-separated-always-separated/#comment-60 Sun, 30 Sep 2012 08:10:33 +0000 http://expatsincebirth.com/?p=120#comment-60 In reply to homemum.

Yes, that’s funny and really works – especially it makes everyone smile and hold on a second (or longer). I have to keep this in mind the next time mine will need me all at the same time. Thank you very much for sharing. Do you have other suggestions?

]]> By: homemum https://expatsincebirth.com/2012/09/13/twins-at-school-once-separated-always-separated/#comment-57 Sat, 29 Sep 2012 22:04:56 +0000 http://expatsincebirth.com/?p=120#comment-57 If all three clamour for attention at the same time, I tell them to, “Take a ticket and wait in the queue!” It makes me smile to myself and helps me not get hassiled.

]]> By: expatsincebirth https://expatsincebirth.com/2012/09/13/twins-at-school-once-separated-always-separated/#comment-56 Sat, 29 Sep 2012 16:58:58 +0000 http://expatsincebirth.com/?p=120#comment-56 Dear Tessa, I’m glad you liked this post. Yes, I think every child deserves it to be treated as individual. That shouldn’t be different for twins, triplets, quadruplets etc. It’s more challenging, but really possible. And in my opinion a mum has a big part in this (that’s why I was so outraged about the quadruplets I wrote in my post “What where they thinking?!”).
It’s not easy to give our kids the same amount of attention. I do it like your friend: I give attention to the one who requests it. But sometimes the one who needs it the most is the quieter one, so I have to be very attentive. You’re perfectly right: it’s the same as having siblings. When two or all three need attention at the same time, I choose the most urgent and, if possible, I involve them all in the helping. How are you doing it?

]]> By: homemum https://expatsincebirth.com/2012/09/13/twins-at-school-once-separated-always-separated/#comment-55 Sat, 29 Sep 2012 16:26:24 +0000 http://expatsincebirth.com/?p=120#comment-55 It was very interesting reading your approach – even with sisters (aged 3 and 6) I have to ensure I treat them as individuals. Just because one has a ‘craft suitcase’ doesn’t mean the other has to have one too. I asked a friend of mine who has twins how does she give them both attention? She said that she gives the ‘needy’ one attention at the time they need it. Actually it was just like having siblings who need attention and help at different times.

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